How many times have you heard the expression, “The only thing that is constant is change”? No matter which direction you see yourself going, you can expect change. The expectation of change is deeply rooted in us; you might even say our DNA knows that change is a constant. Change is a-coming. You can count on it.
Change, even if it’s expected, requires adjustment. And even good changes—changes that you want and have waited for—require adjustments. I remember when our first child was born. Actually, I remember months before the actual delivery. There were lots of changes, especially with my wife. As the baby grew in utero, my wife experienced a few cravings. Nothing unusual like pickles or spicy food, but I distinctly remember some pretty persistent requests for Ben & Jerry’s ice cream.
There were changes to that extra bedroom, too. Before our son was born, I painted the walls yellow, applied a banner along the top of the walls, assembled a crib, and hung up a couple of mobiles.
When our son was finally born, there were more changes. Like diaper changing. I didn’t have a lot of experience with this kind of change, but I was quick to adapt. Talk about change being constant. It seemed like I was always changing diapers. But I caught on quickly. I learned that the faster I changed the diaper, the faster I avoided a number of unpleasantries, like lingering malodors and the ever-present danger of getting peed on, which seemed to be an ongoing threat no matter how soaked the diaper already was. But a fresh diaper didn’t mean the end of change. How often did I get A&D ointment stains all over my pants? Great, then I had to change.
When our son went through the terrible twos, which really weren’t so terrible, the change in temperament required more patience and understanding. Before we knew it, he was a teenager. Lots more changes to son and parents during that phase. Then there was college and marriage. Lots of happiness to be sure. And lots of changes. But as I look back, the really easy and fun changes combined with the really difficult changes made all of us better. We improved and became wiser and less uptight and even less apprehensive of those future, unknown changes. That’s good, because you can count on change to find you even if you’re not looking for it. So embrace it and make the most of it!
With all this talk of change, I’ve worked up a craving for ice cream. Specifically, Ben & Jerry’s Rain Forest Crunch. That used to be one of my favorites. Used to be. But alas, it’s no longer available. In fact, it was retired to the Ben & Jerry’s Flavor Graveyard. Now that’s a change I can live without.